Monday, May 18, 2009

Feel Better About Life - How To Deal With Depression and Anxiety

I know why you're here. You're hoping (though probably not expecting) to find some inspiration. You need a spark, something to put some fire back into you, because right now, emotionally, and mentally, you feel pretty tired of life. You're not a quitter though. I know this, because you're here. You're looking for a solution.
Four Points - One Goal This is no ordinary Compass
Below are the four points that dragged me out of the vacuum, and pushed my life in a NEW direction entirely. They are the BIG ONES. So, firstly, suspend disbelief. Just try them. Even if you try nothing else on this page, try these four things. What have you got to lose? They will make it easier to deal with life. Further down, you'll find some smaller things to do help make you feel better, most of which you may well consider meaningless - you'll be correct, they don't mean anything. But NONE of them are pointless. In fact, the aim is the same with all of them: to make YOU feel BETTER about LIFE!
DON'Ts and DO's: The Four Points of 'The Compass'
DON'T EXPECT anything from life
I know it may be a hard concept to get your head around, but you need to accept this as your truth. It may seem like a pessimistic view, but actually it's more of a pragmatic one. Expectation is the true source of disappointment. If you remove expectation, or can at least learn to manage your expectations, disappointment essentially evaporates. Remember, Life doesn't owe you anything, so expect nothing. Treat everything that you get out of Life as a bonus, because Life could easily give you far less.
DON'T try to assign any meaning to life
Assume that there is no meaning. OK, so your first reaction to that statement may be to perceive it as "negative", but actually, when you assume there is no meaning, it liberates you from the search for meaning. The futile search becomes completely irrelevant to you. You will no longer keep asking "WHY?", because you realize THERE IS NO "WHY?". Once you get your head around this, the energy you wasted searching fruitlessly for "the meaning of life" will be diverted to more useful and practical endeavors that contribute to enhancing your life in a more satisfactory way. Instead of looking for meaning, look for enjoyment. Find as many ways as possible to change your world and make it a more pleasant place to be.
DO make DIFFERENT decisions
If you think that most of the decisions you ever made were the wrong ones, then consciously set out to make different ones. From here on out, every time you have a decision to make, consider what you would normally do - what's within your normal p
I know why you're here. You're hoping (though probably not expecting) to find some inspiration. You need a spark, something to put some fire back into you, because right now, emotionally, and mentally, you feel pretty tired of life. You're not a quitter though. I know this, because you're here. You're looking for a solution.
Four Points - One Goal This is no ordinary Compass
Below are the four points that dragged me out of the vacuum, and pushed my life in a NEW direction entirely. They are the BIG ONES. So, firstly, suspend disbelief. Just try them. Even if you try nothing else on this page, try these four things. What have you got to lose? They will make it easier to deal with life. Further down, you'll find some smaller things to do help make you feel better, most of which you may well consider meaningless - you'll be correct, they don't mean anything. But NONE of them are pointless. In fact, the aim is the same with all of them: to make YOU feel BETTER about LIFE!
DON'Ts and DO's: The Four Points of 'The Compass'
DON'T EXPECT anything from life
I know it may be a hard concept to get your head around, but you need to accept this as your truth. It may seem like a pessimistic view, but actually it's more of a pragmatic one. Expectation is the true source of disappointment. If you remove expectation, or can at least learn to manage your expectations, disappointment essentially evaporates. Remember, Life doesn't owe you anything, so expect nothing. Treat everything that you get out of Life as a bonus, because Life could easily give you far less.
DON'T try to assign any meaning to life
Assume that there is no meaning. OK, so your first reaction to that statement may be to perceive it as "negative", but actually, when you assume there is no meaning, it liberates you from the search for meaning. The futile search becomes completely irrelevant to you. You will no longer keep asking "WHY?", because you realize THERE IS NO "WHY?". Once you get your head around this, the energy you wasted searching fruitlessly for "the meaning of life" will be diverted to more useful and practical endeavors that contribute to enhancing your life in a more satisfactory way. Instead of looking for meaning, look for enjoyment. Find as many ways as possible to change your world and make it a more pleasant place to be.
DO make DIFFERENT decisions
If you think that most of the decisions you ever made were the wrong ones, then consciously set out to make different ones. From here on out, every time you have a decision to make, consider what you would normally do - what's within your normal pattern of behavior, then CHOOSE AN ALTERNATIVE.
DO PRAISE yourself
Give yourself credit when you do something positive. Found a better job? Got a pay rise? Wrote a great essay? Created something that you're proud of? Did you try something you wouldn't have tried before? Did you help someone today? Tell yourself how AWESOME YOU ARE for doing it! It's not as narcissistic as it sounds. Just REMEMBER to give yourself a pat on the back every once in a while.
So those are the BIG ones. I say BIG because I believe they're the most difficult to do and adhere to. As I said above, if you don't try anything else on this page, you should at the very least try these. I cannot stress enough the importance of these Compass Points. Combined, they really will send you in a new direction!
attern of behavior, then CHOOSE AN ALTERNATIVE.
DO PRAISE yourself
Give yourself credit when you do something positive. Found a better job? Got a pay rise? Wrote a great essay? Created something that you're proud of? Did you try something you wouldn't have tried before? Did you help someone today? Tell yourself how AWESOME YOU ARE for doing it! It's not as narcissistic as it sounds. Just REMEMBER to give yourself a pat on the back every once in a while.
So those are the BIG ones. I say BIG because I believe they're the most difficult to do and adhere to. As I said above, if you don't try anything else on this page, you should at the very least try these. I cannot stress enough the importance of these Compass Points. Combined, they really will send you in a new direction!

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